We are halfway between the Autumnal Equinox and Winter Solstice. The darkening days have been giving each of us the opportunity to still ourselves and go deeper within.
What does going deeper within accomplish? Why does it even matter?
Just like the contrast between night and day, the stillness and silence of darkness helps to contrast the movement and outward focus of lightness.
What this means practically
It’s very likely that in your day-to-day you may notice things feeling increasingly scratchy or in your face in the next week. That’s okay, it’s not just you! There is a lot going on energetically and astrologically right now.
If you start feeling frustrated, take it as the perfect reminder that it’s time to go inward. Going inward with the intention to look at the aspects of yourself that perhaps sometimes get ignored, or avoided, or silenced, or berated.
Regardless of personality type, we ALL do this. Some examples:
- Those unspoken (or spoken!) fears
- Insecurities
- Jealousy
- Complacency
- Cynicism
- Criticism (toward ourselves or others)
Sound familiar? No matter how spiritually or personally developed we are, we will ALL have growth and development to do our whole lives here.
No one is perfect. And that’s okay! But it does matter, getting to know ourselves so deeply.
What if you have never really gotten that connected with yourself?
If you’ve been avoiding intimacy and deep connection with yourself, it usually also means you’ve been closing yourself to intimacy (and the connection that comes with it) to others.
Even if you’ve gone through the motions of “getting out there”, avoiding intimacy with ourselves usually means we avoid meaningful intimacy in subtle (or not so subtle) ways with others.
It’s entirely possible that you’re just not interested in connecting with yourself deeply. Just be aware that if you avoid connecting to yourself, that is likely making itself apparent in other areas of your life that also require connection with others.
And even if you try to ignore these aspects of yourself, it is very likely that they will still bubble up in the coming days in particular. So even if you’re not interested in growth – consider yourself warned!
If you ARE open to connecting with yourself more deeply.
Grab a journal or journaling app and jot down your immediate responses to these questions. Don’t spend too much time thinking about it, just get writing.
Step 1: What moment bothered you the most in the past couple weeks?
- Doesn’t matter if it was a specific conversation, an incident, something you observed, something you noticed.
- Whatever it was, what was that thing that really bugged you?
- It could be something that kept coming to mind, or it could have just really gotten under your skin at the time.
- Note: this moment does NOT refer to being a victim of crime or some other serious, traumatic event. If you believe you have been the victim of a crime, please call your local emergency services.
Step 2: What did you feel you wanted to say or do in that moment, but didn’t?
- You know exactly what these are, and they’re coming up for a reason!
- So write out everything that you wanted to do or say but didn’t.
Step 3: What do you believe prevented you from experiencing that moment/incident/conversation/lack thereof how you WANTED to experience it?
- Write it all out, and just let it all out.
- Then, write it out again, but in a single, short sentence.
Take a look at this last thing you’ve written. For better or worse, that’s a current limiting belief you have. Don’t be hard on yourself – we all have limiting beliefs.
And limiting beliefs can also be changed and released.
In the coming weeks, join me and continue to look at how to release limiting beliefs and craft new realizations so you can get truly connected with all the power and resourcefulness that you already have within.
In the meantime, I encourage you to sit with that limiting belief and question where it came from.
And start to get comfortable with the idea that all that you can do and be and have in life is so much more than any of these beliefs that have outlived their usefulness.
You’ve got this. Blessings and empowerment to you.